5 Tips for How to Talk to Loved Ones About Mental Health
These 5 tips can help you with talking about your concerns with loved ones
Talking about mental health can feel overwhelming. Whether you’re opening up about your own struggles or expressing concern for someone you care about, these conversations are often filled with emotion, uncertainty, and vulnerability.
These conversations matter—and they can lead to healing, understanding, and stronger relationships. At HQ Psych, we believe that open, honest communication is one of the most powerful tools we have to support mental wellness.
Here’s how to start that conversation with care and confidence.
1. Choose the Right Moment
Timing matters. Look for a time when both you and your loved one are calm, not distracted, and have space for an open conversation. Avoid moments of high stress, conflict, or urgency.
Try this:
“Hey, do you have a few minutes to talk? There’s something important on my mind, and I’d love to share it with you.”
2. Speak From a Place of Compassion
Whether you're sharing your own experience or expressing concern for someone else, lead with empathy—not judgment. Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory.
If you’re opening up about yourself:
“I’ve been having a tough time lately, and I wanted to talk to you about it because I trust you.”
If you’re concerned about them:
“I’ve noticed you seem overwhelmed recently, and I just want to make sure you're okay.”
3. Listen Without Trying to “Fix” Everything
Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is simply listen. Validate their feelings and avoid minimizing their experience, even if you don’t fully understand it.
What helps:
“That sounds really hard. I’m glad you’re telling me.”
“Thank you for trusting me with this.”
What to avoid:
“Just think positive.”
“It could be worse.”
4. Keep the Conversation Going
Mental health isn’t a one-time chat—it’s an ongoing dialogue. Let your loved one know you’re here, not just today, but whenever they need support.
You might say:
“I'm always here to listen. If you ever want to talk more about this, just let me know.”
And if they aren’t ready to talk yet, respect that. Let them know the door is open.
5. Offer Support Without Pressure
If someone you care about is struggling, you can offer help—but be mindful not to push. Ask how you can support them and offer specific, realistic suggestions.
Try this:
“Would you like me to help you find a therapist?”
“Would it be helpful if I came with you to your first appointment?”
“Can I check in with you later this week?”
When to Encourage Professional Help
If someone is in crisis, expressing hopelessness, or showing signs of severe distress, it’s important to encourage professional support—gently, but clearly.
“You don’t have to go through this alone. There are people who can help, and I can help you take that first step.”
Talking about mental health isn’t easy—but it can be life-changing. These conversations are acts of love, courage, and connection. Whether you’re the one sharing or the one listening, know this: you’re doing something that is very important.
If you or a loved one need support, we’re here for you. At HQ Psych, our therapists provide a safe, compassionate space to explore your mental health and we are ready to speak with you.
